UNRECIPROCATED LOVE.

Unreciprocated love.

Nothing hurts more than seeing someone you love loving someone else. This could drive someone crazy. At first, you start feeling jealous of the person who is being loved by the one you love. You begin to see that person as bad and wonder what the person you love sees in this person. With time, this jealousy begins to develop to anger and hatred, if not checked.

We live in a very crazy world where things don’t happen the way they normally should. After working for long hours, you expect your boss to pay, to give you a raise even, instead the boss begins to tell you how bad business is going. You pay huge some for your child(ren) school; fees, expecting them to come out on top of the class at the end of the term but instead, they come home with grades far below your expectations. The list of all these life disappointments is endless.

Perhaps, the worst part of these disappointments is unreciprocated love. Imagine loving someone so bad that it hurts each time you think about him or her. Imagine day dreaming about someone and when you eventually see that person one on one, he is not even looking at you or he doesn’t feel all the butterflies you feel in your belly and he or she treats you the way he treats other people without preference.

Damn!

Imagine staying up at night, reading, watching a moving or listening to songs and throughout all these, you are thinking about this someone that you madly love but he or she is into someone else. Imagine the pain and the heartbreak!

Love could be funny at times. It comes uninvited, unbidden and often times, blind. Most times when someone is caught in the inescapable grip of love, escape becomes impossible. Not only does it render you senseless and unthinking, it also blinds you such that you cannot see the flaws in the person that you are madly in love with. When your friends and family members who are not blinded by your love begins to tell you a million reasons why you shouldn’t love him or her, all you need is just a reason to shut them up and out of your relationship.

These are the ironies and madness of love.

Yet, it is unbearable when you see the one you love in the arms of someone else. William Shakespeare once said “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”. Not only a woman, anyone scorned or abandoned by someone he or she loves.

As valentine approaches, there will be more heartbreak and many loves will go unreciprocated. There’s little or nothing to be done about unreciprocated love. When one finds him or herself in that situation, the best thing to do it to take your mind off the person (I know it is not easy) but it is the best thing. Train your mind to think without bringing that person that you love but who doesn’t love into the picture. Over time, you get used to his or her absence and eventually, the love you have for that person withers off like a flower planted in the middle of a desert or it fizzles out like a burning candle that is gradually immersed in water.

HAPPY VALENTINE IN ADVANCE!